Self Limiting Beliefs - When I work with people I read the patterns of the limiting beliefs they have coded to nervous system

Its my job to scramble the pattern and create new beliefs for my clients, here is how I do it........

All my life I have been obsessed why people do what they do, one area where people lose out continually in growth and opportunities in life is through having strong beliefs and self-limitations, it’s what forms us as human beings,

The beliefs you hold to be true, make up the fabric of your experience. The stronger those beliefs, the more they seem unshakable, and the more you will find evidence to support them. What most people don’t realize is that the vast majority of our beliefs about the world are not really true “out there.” They are only true because we've decided they are, albeit we likely haven’t done so consciously.

Beliefs are formed through repeated thoughts, and the only reason they hold any weight is because you've decided or agreed that they are true.

There are a lot of collective limiting beliefs that you've probably agreed to:

·         I am not good enough

·         I am too old to make a go of it

·         I could never work at that level

·         I just cannot seem to reach my best

·         Dreams are just not practical

And there are probably a lot of personally acquired limiting beliefs you’ve collected through your own unique experiences. Whatever the case, most beliefs are formed unconsciously, without our knowing about it. We didn't necessarily decide to agree to these beliefs because we wanted to. Now I hear you ask what’s all the different states of consciousness, will remind you later in the week.

It’s not like one day we woke up and thought “Man, you know what would be awesome? To go out today and repeat a bunch of thoughts that are going to turn into hard and fast conclusions that will keep me from experiencing the life I want. Yeah, I think that’s what I’ll do today.”

That would obviously be ridiculous.

None of us want to keep these beliefs, but we either think:

1.     That’s just the way things are (everyone else agrees), or…

2.     It’s become such a part of my identity that it’s too hard to change now

In order to solve the first problem, we need to realize that what is often seen as “just the way things are” is, in reality, just a collective assumption. And because it’s an assumption, that means that we decided to agree to make that assumption as well, on some conscious or unconscious level.

In that case, we need to reclaim our power, and choose to stop agreeing. It can really be that simple.

When it comes to ingrained limiting beliefs, patterns, or habits, these can be a bit harder to change. Because we’re so used to them — and mostly because we identify with them — they hold a lot of weight in our experience. It can almost feel as if they’re immovable objects on our path.

Some common limiting beliefs are…

·         The feeling of not being enough or good enough, question is “How do you know this”

·         The feeling of not having enough “ what’s enough and how do you know when you have enough”

·         Having to work hard for money “ what’s working hard to you”

·         Not deserving success “ what’s success to you”

·         [insert your limiting belief here] do you have one we all do so think about one that limits you, I know with some of my clients it took them months to work with me, I had a chat with a senior manager of a business because I was to be silent in our work, the limiting belief was having a performance coach for him was a limiting belief he was weak and a failure, we changed that to inspiring a workplace with his example of learning and personal growth. Beliefs can destroy you, they can cause wars around the world.

These things can seem daunting to try to change. And even when you do make a real, consistent effort, it is often just too hard to overcome.

Luckily, there are a few steps you can follow in order to make the shift to new, more empowering beliefs.

1.     Stop identifying with the belief. Most beliefs are so difficult to change because we identify with them. They seem to be ingrained as a part of who we are. And because we identify with them, we allow ourselves to be defined by them. If you think you’re not creative, you’ll see yourself as someone who just wasn’t born with that ability. If you think you’re bad with getting things to work, you might think you’re just not a mechanical person. It’s easy to get caught up in allowing our beliefs to define us, but they don’t have to. So the first step is to stop identifying with or defining yourself based on what you believe.

2.     Kill your conclusions. Whatever you think you know to be certain is probably a lot more flexible than you think. What you think to be required is certain to be much more negotiable. Question all of the conclusions you have about what you think to be true, fixed or possible.

3.     Test your assumptions. Without pushing the boundary and testing your assumptions, it’s impossible to move past your limiting beliefs. You need to do something to breaking the pattern of the limiting belief. Questioning is the first step, but if you only do that, the possibilities of moving to a more empowering perspective stay in your head. Some type of action must be taken that puts your conclusions to the test. Just make sure that you’re not staying in the limited head-space that leads you to reinforce what you already hold to be true. Suspend your judgment and take some kind of action to test your assumptions.

It might seem simple, but these are the basic steps to moving past any limiting belief.

They’re only part of it, though. In order to really integrate a new, more empowering belief, you’ll need to spend time cultivating it. And it can help to go through a structured process to dissolve the limit.

So how can they can prevent us from achieving the personal and professional success we deserve, so thinking about breaking these kinds of beliefs, I wanted to share some ideas on how to go about doing it.  Some are concrete tactics while others are more inspirational.

1.    Acknowledge It
Identify the limiting belief. Greet it. Let it know that you’re aware it exists.

2.    Expose It 
Don’t hide from it. Bring it out into the open.

3.    Advertise It
Share this limiting belief with others. They’ll tell you how ridiculous you’re being when you can’t see it yourself.

4.    Challenge It
Ask “What evidence do I have that supports this belief?”

5.    Risk It
What if this liming belief was actually true? So what?! Throw caution to the wind and you’ll discover that “failure” isn’t so bad.

6.    Remember Others Like It
What limiting beliefs have you overcome in the past?

7.    Examine It
When did it start? Where did it come from?

8.    Pay Attention To It
What is it preventing you from accomplishing?

9.    Take It To Its Logical Conclusion
If you don’t get rid of this belief, what will happen?

10.    Get Mad At It
This limiting belief is a jerk. Don’t make friends with him. Show him who’s boss.

11.    Laugh At It
Seriously? This limiting belief is hilarious! I can’t even keep a straight face when I think about it…

12.    Take a Break From It 
Put it on hold. Pretend it doesn’t exist for a while. What’s different?

13.    Exaggerate It
Turn up the volume on it. How ridiculous does it look when it’s 20 feet tall?

14.    Reverse It
What would happen if the exact opposite was true?

15.    Repeat It
Ever repeat the same word or phrase so many times it stops making any sense? Do that.

16.    Prioritize It
Make it an important priority to get over this limiting belief. Stop putting it off.

17.    Lean Into It
Sometimes pulling away from it only makes it stronger. When you stop resisting, it goes away.

18.    Replace It
What UN-Limiting Belief can you put in its place?

19.    Starve It
What actions and thoughts feed this limiting belief? Get rid of those and watch it die.

20.    Make It Hurt
Try the old stand-by rubber band snap on the wrist every time you find yourself falling back on it.

21.    Listen To It
What is this belief really telling you?

22.    Respect It
Limiting beliefs shouldn’t be ignored or belittled. Underestimate it at your own peril.

23.    Doubt It
Just because it feels real, doesn’t mean it IS real.

24.    Invest In It
Put your time, money, and energy into overcoming it.

25.    Imagine Life Without It
What would you be capable of?

26.    Separate It
Maybe this belief is attached to someone in your life and you’re just absorbing it. Is someone else feeding it to you?

27.    Disassociate It
Is there an action, situation or feeling that triggers this belief to pop up? Learn how to have one without the other.

28.    Track It
Are there times when it doesn’t show up? What’s that all about?

29.    Tilt It
Look at it differently. A new perspective may change it completely.

30.    Sacrifice It
Yes, you may feel like it’s a part of you that you can’t imagine living without. Let it go. Sacrifice it to the Gods.

31.    Reason With It
Logically. Truthfully.

32.    Look for Twins
Is one limiting belief showing up in multiple ways?

33.    Forgive Yourself
Don’t hold it against yourself that you’ve been harboring this limiting belief. You’re human.

34.    Interrupt It
When you notice a limiting belief rearing its ugly head, stop yourself mid-thought and…

35.    Breathe Into It
Inhale, exhale.

36.    Confront It
Look it in the eye.

37.    Verbalize It
Say it out loud. How silly does it sound?

38.    Write About It
Put it on paper. How different does it look?

39.    Simplify It
At its fundamental core, what is this limiting belief about?

40.    Engage With It
Start a conversation. Get to know it.

41.    Connect It
How is this limiting belief connected to your mental attitude?

42.    Align Forces Against It
Prepare all of your faculties for battle.

43.    Reword It
If you phrase it in a different way, does it offer a different meaning?

44.    Compartmentalize It
Isolate it to one corner of your mind. Don’t let it infect other thoughts.

45.    Normalize It
You’re not unique for having these beliefs. Everyone has them. It’s okay.

46.    Reframe It
It might feel like truth. But it’s not. It’s a perception. Reframe it as such.

47.    Take Responsibility For It
This limiting belief belongs to you. It’s yours to keep or discard. Make the choice.

48.    Disconnect From It
This belief is not a part of who you are. It is not your identity. Losing it will only let your true identity shine more.

49.    Tune It Out
Stop listening! Turn a deaf ear on it. Hit the “mute” button.

50.    Abandon It
Leave it in a basket at the edge of the woods. A pack of wolves might adopt it and raise it to be one of their own.

51.    Take Action On It
Nothing will change without your active participation. What are you doing TODAY to overcome this limiting belief?

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The Great Wall of China Marathon - My Next Challenge - Would you please consider helping me raise £1000 for an inspiring charity "Finding your Feet"

The Great Wall Of China Marathon - May 16th 2015 

Charity Donation page - https://www.justgiving.com/SteviesGreatWall/

A Personal Growth strategy I have, is that each year I look to really test myself beyond my limits, Few Years ago I thought I had really reached a peak in testing myself, when I personally created and delivered a 3 day personal discovery Leadership event in Windsor castle for 29 business leaders. No words describe how that made me feel in pursuing and embarking on such a goal. Its where "Fear" becomes the motivator. This year I found a challenge and a cause that simply makes my heart skip a beat when I think of both........................... in fact I would go as far to say it makes me emotional just thinking about it.

The charity is called " Finding your feet"

The Challenge is " The Great wall of China Marathon" ( reported to be 3rd hardest in the world)

We have a challenge , I have never ran a marathon, and do not particularly like running........... LOL

Folks can you help me please ? I am raising funds for the charity " Finding your feet" - The Just Giving page - no matter how much you can give, it will go a massive way...

It would be massive if we were able to raise £1000 for this amazing charity...

https://www.justgiving.com/SteviesGreatWall/

Finding Your Feet was set up by friends and family of Corinne Hutton, a single mum of one who, in June 2013, had her hands and feet amputated as a result of septicaemia. From her hospital bed, Corinne (44) vowed that after getting herself fixed, she would help others facing life-changing trauma but who lack the support network from which she feels she has benefited.

Finding Your Feet is about giving a leg up to those who need help to find their feet again in life. We provide a ready-made support network and other means of assistance to those who find themselves facing life-changing trauma, whether through illness, injury or circumstance.  

Life-changing trauma is probably the most horrific thing that can happen to someone – not just for the individual, but for their family, friends and carers for whom the impact is often just as devastating.

What's even more difficult about life-changing trauma is how tough it is to overcome — physically, emotionally and, often, practically so that life may go on with some semblance of normality. The good news is that studies show you can be left feeling stronger and more positive following life-changing trauma due to the way you handle it.

HOW WE HELP            

Life-changing trauma can take many forms, including injury, amputation, paralysis or unexpected illness. Whatever your life-changing event, it can be tough to get your head around and to accept that life can, and will, continue, albeit perhaps not in quite the same way as before. That’s where we come in.

We aim to restore an individual’s lust for life following trauma using our well established support network, financial and emotional assistance.

We can work with people to help re-build their life, and to ‘find your feet’ in their new situation. We will assist them with setting, and ultimately achieving, challenging but realistic goals. We aim to provide direction, to point out new doors opening and help embrace the opportunities that lie through them despite the change in circumstances. We will help find the positive mental attitude needed to be all they can be and to boldly go where they never thought they could or would following life-changing trauma, whether that be through physical therapy, emotional support, guidance, rehabilitation or financial assistance.

My personal strategy in life has always been to help people, This is an opportunity for me to push myself beyond my limits and lucky enough to have a coach supporting me as well as my fellow friends who are true athletes in endurance events. It also gives me an opportunity to raise some funds for a charity and story that touched me deeply.Any support you can give would be appreciated. Regular updates on the training will be posted on 

 https://www.facebook.com/stevie.kidd.9?fref=photo

Thank you in advance for all your support.

Success comes to you more, when you open up and Let him In !!

STEVIE KIDD “My only regret in working with Stevie Kidd so far is that I wish I had started to do so 10 years ago”

Does your business or job give you sleepless nights and do you constantly ask yourself how can I make my life easier and more enjoyable? If the answer to either of these is YES than you should take 15 minutes out of your busy life to read on!!   

Every successful business leader understands the importance of clear business thinking and the how effective identification and efficient planning of new opportunities and high quality service provision can lead to business success.

Stevie Kidd is no different. Having been an entrepreneur for over the last 25 years, Stevie has built from zero a number of highly successful companies but also experienced the negative elements of business of a failed business. His lifetime of business experience has enabled him to understand what makes business works and what the pitfalls are that can lead to business failure are.

Recent Testimony: I cannot explain what it is Stevie Kidd does, he simply has an ability to look and see behind your eyes and into your soul, I chose simply to accept what he does works and cease from trying to understand what it is he actually does during the coaching programme, simply prepare yourself for an enlightening journey full of change for the better but one where your family, friends and business colleagues are consistently recognizing the changes in you. I know it works because I understand myself more and feel really good about myself within me.

He brings a lifetime of Studying Human Behavior and how these behaviours can influence and direct an individual’s business and personal life (both positively and negatively).

These experiences, knowledge and understanding has allowed Stevie to develop and  implement a number of innovative business coaching ideas that he has shared with a number of successful business leaders within large corporations, across a number of industry sectors including; engineering, Care, Manufacturing, SMEs, software development, distribution, banking and financial sector and the voluntary sector.

Stevie brings a fresh perspective to Business Coaching and has successfully merged coaching techniques with “real” business environments ensuring that the support he provides is relevant to the business needs of the individual and contributes to their business and personal development.

His support enables and empowers individuals to understand and enhance their personal beliefs, creating effective, innovative and realistic solutions and development plans.

Before supporting any company/individual Stevie spends some time with them to understand their beliefs, aspirations and future wants and their strategies and plans. This time enables all to build a clear and honest picture of where we are and where we want to get to and by when.

SO IF YOU WANT TO REDUCE YOUR SLEEPLESS NIGHTS AND GAIN SOME SUPPORT FROM A HIGHLY RESPECTED BUSINESS LEADER GIVE ME A CALL.

Here is what I have said about Stevie’s support to me:

My only regret in working with Stevie Kidd so far is that I wish I had started to do so 10 years ago. If you want a coach who will pat you on the back say it's all going to be alright whilst whispering gentle words of encouragement then look somewhere else. If you want a supportive coach who will really challenge every fibre of your being, shock your system, elevate your thinking and aspirations and take you on a journey that will propel you to another level then Stevie is the man that I would wholeheartedly recommend!

To Contact Stevie  for an initial exploration meeting email : Stevie@Steviekidd.co.uk