Back to School - With the End in Mind

Back to school – with the end in mind

With 48 hours until the new school term starts my son and I head for the golf course. I have many things on my mind I want to chat and explore with Ryan to help him and bring us closer than ever before as father and son team. Like all Mums and Dads we want a lot for our kids.

As we head down to course we explore many things, starting with a question I ask and take seriously, “Ryan how can I be a better father and friend to you”?  This always brings laughter but it’s important that I ask Ryan as being aware of your child’s world is vitally important in growing our relationship, especially now as he is a teenager.

We initially discuss the three things that will hold him back from getting the year at school he wants?

1.       Failure to anticipate the road ahead. We take Ryan to the end of his 4th year today on golf course to imagine what that looks like and feel like, he is smiling wildly.

2.       Lack of follow through. Ryan has work experience next January, but he has already emailed 3 CEOs of large corporations to request shadowing CEOs directly, acting instantly and following though immediately, smart strategy.

3.       Your own psychology / mind-set. Where you do not know, follow and model someone who has the results you want or come to me immediately for help.

Once we have these answers locked in, We then discuss what is your X Factor Ryan, what’s going to make you different from everyone else for the year ahead, what’s going to make you smarter, what strategies will you require and use Ryan?

We explore where Ryan’s thoughts are for going back to school right now? Ryan is clever as we have spoken about this subject over the years; the smartest people anticipate the future and change speedily. So starting school our thoughts go to end of year, then breaking terms, to breaking week to breaking end of day one, then back to start of day one.

 I ask what do you want from year ahead at school Ryan – be specific; when, where, and who do you want it? I then ask Ryan “do you want to try a new strategy”? Ryan is sitting the new Scottish national 5 qualifications for all his subjects going into 4th year, so we discuss meeting himself a year on seeing who he has become though a timeline?

Laying out the timeline on the golf course, now time lines can be imagined, but it is often easier and more powerful to make timeline physical by anchoring in space so you can walk from past to the future and back again, so golf course is ideal, something I do daily very fast. I explain to Ryan “you can use this technique whenever you need to think about the past experience or plan future goals or help someone else to do so”. We use this strategy when outlining the black belt year where Ryan has met himself wearing the black belt and floating across the timeline seeing all the activity and discipline he has to have to achieve such a goal.

 As we walk around the course I ask Ryan “where is your timeline”? I ask Ryan “point towards the past”? “now point towards the future”. “Imagine a line connecting the two”. I feel it’s relevant to say depending on where your map is today, this would tend to change depending on where you are, but where you are is where you are meant to be. This example was about seeing the past starting high school to present but then firing into future for end of 4th year, but connecting the timeline.

I explain to Ryan, “imagine that line of the floor, orient yourself so you are on that line facing towards the future. What does the future look like now”? How far does it seem to go son”?

 I ask Ryan to “look back along your time line towards the past. What does it look like? How far does it seem to go son?

I ask Ryan “step off the timeline and face it square on, now you are through time in a meta position to your timeline”. “What do you think about your timeline?” “What can you learn from it?” Can you see the journey you have had and one you are about to take, the new one for the most important year for you to date, a year where you end with exams passed and a black belt around your waist?”. It’s emotional seeing yourself achieve these goals, now that’s when you know it’s a fantastic goal, when it makes you teary eyed.

 I ask Ryan “step back onto your timeline son, walk back into the past, noticing powerful resourceful memories as you go, stop when you feel you have gone far enough, now walk forward, bringing those powerful experiences and resources with you into the present like a presence from the past. How does that feel champ?” He feels different already.

“Now think about a future outcome, black belt and exams complete at end of year, one that you really want for end of year?” “Step straight into the future at the point when you want to have it”. “Look back from that future point to the ‘now’ son and imagine the steps and stages that you would have to have gone through in order to get from ‘then’ (now) (the future). Come back to the present with that knowledge of how to achieve your outcome”. We look at each other, we hug and I promise him, I will walk it with you champ, you will not be alone, you inspire me each day Ryan to be a better person, a better father and better husband, all you have to do son is “Believe you can and you are halfway there” —Theodore Roosevelt

 Let this journey begin, back to school – with the end in mind, here is to 4th Year at High school 2013.

Complete Mastery within Life and Business - The biggest challenge is facing the truth

Mastery within Life and  Business – Anticipation is the ultimate Edge you require for success

Video of inspiring people to go beyond the possible: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lSM1mvMypWU

Mastery within Life and  Business – Anticipation is the Ultimate Edge you will have ahead of everyone else.

The path to mastering and overcoming anything, whether it’s a relationship, a business, a job, your family, or your finances, comes from using three tools, Following these tools will help you create phenomenal results in any area of your life, I have believed in these tools all my life, they have worked for me.

1 Model someone who’s already achieved it. I have had three role models in my life and modelling them has been highly effective in my life. I have also replicated strategies of other people and businesses, learning the strategies.
2 Learn by complete and utter immersion in what you do , with every fibre of your soul. You have to completely embrace it, associate with it and magnify all your senses to feeling what you want.
3 Supreme evaluation / Speedily change and repetition repetition repetition , its all in the detail of evaluation.

The three steps to real progress  

Take Massive Action; Tools are not enough; you have to completely open all doors within you. Why is it that sometimes we know what to do, we have great motives for change, and yet we fail to follow through? Draw a line and up your standards and completely refuse to fall below those standards in every area of your life. My ritual everyday is three things I tell myself " I know Nothing" " Keep Talking" "Needs work" I remember John la Valle told me these phrases many years ago and they stuck with me. Is it not strange, that a person can say as little as 9 words and it makes a complete transformation for you in your reality of the world you live in, but you need to ensure your listening to receive the messages.

What’s missing is our understanding of human psychology; at school we are not taught about understanding Enterprise, understanding of Money and more importantly understanding who we are within including understanding or being aware of how we do what and why we do what we do and how to change it.

Firstly you need to understand your underlying blueprint, how your nervous system been coded against how you live your life daily ,how do you create meaning and emotions and what causes you to think, Feel, and behave the way we do, you can not only gain the answers to these questions, but learn how to create lasting change and absolute fulfilment. This then leads to Achieving success, contribute and celebrate those successes.

Get the best Tools/Map/Strategy/ Coaching for results; Today more clients have enrolled to my 6 month coaching programme which is challenging in all areas of life, complete wheel of life including inner-metrix profiling.

Firstly my clients need to define the target , once defined, next steps is efficient and effective plan for the journey ahead, an effective one.

In order to close the gap between where you are and where you want to be, you need a proven and tested map, an effective dynamic mentor, and coaching to drive you to take action. I always have an initial meeting with client as having rapport between two people is vital to driving this partnership forward, I have my own coach in fitness, Nutrition and life coach, its what accelerates me in all areas of my life.

So my advice is "Get totally focused",

Make is absolutely abundantly clear and compelling; the first step is to clarify the results you desire in your life. I take someone's journey very seriously, but its exactly that, its the other persons journey, your just the sign post in coaching partnership. I always use the jigsaw metaphor, we open the box and explore do we have the right amount of pieces for this journey, but our box has no picture on it, as in these partnerships we build a new picture for the "NEW YOU" .

I believe we all have a Genius within us, everyone has the magic within them, we all need coached to source and access it, when we do, our life goes to a whole new level, and the beauty is that then it has real impact on people around you. In fact I look at it as the ability of creating a new world as the youth of today watching you grow inspires them to greatness in the young peoples lives.

Questions and thoughts to ask and challenge yourself!

What is your definition of an extraordinary life?
What do you need to do, to take that first step in your life and business to get started which will take you to that next level?
What stops you?

Without a clear and compelling vision for what you want today.You wont be able to find the target of lasting happiness.The biggest challenge is facing the truth of where you are, when you can do that with complete honesty then you will discover the path to where you want to be.

What will your first step be in taking action , but think about this, who were you, who are you , but more importantly "who do you want to become" people who are successful in life spend most time planning the future and work on personal Growth,".

Secret to getting the life you want.
Stevie Kidd

"Huge Unbelievable Great Goals"

Huge Unbelievable Great Goals ( HUGGS)

“The person who says something is impossible should not interrupt the person who is doing it”.

HUGGS ( What are the HUGGS that bring tears to your eyes when you think about them) Some outcomes are more important than others. I like to call them HUGGS, (Huge, Unbelievably Great Goals). They are typically large scale Goals that will start as a seed and manifest to become more precisely defined as your progress the idea and seed in your mind. They will appear like a 360 IMAX in your mind, like a film you will feel your in the film in the future, you have main part in film,

 HUGGS have the following Qualities; -   They are long term ( 2 to 30 years) -   They are clear, compelling and easy to grasp. -    They connect with your identity and core values -   You are completely passionate about them. They engage your emotions to the point you can have tears in your eyes when your thinking about achieving them – you feel amazing when you think about them. Sometimes become very emotional. -  With all your senses you create the show in your mind, you become completely associated and immersed in it.With myself innovation and creativity is always at centre of my "HUGGS" , only settling for "Challenging Reality" or " Opportunity to Turn metal to Gold" always where opportunity lies to create or implement a seed to create a better world, improve a life or a business. We all have this power within us all, I work with people and walk with them to find the HUGGS they want to create in life.

My message is simple one, " When you think of your goals if they do not make you emotional or even make you cry, They are not big enough"

When you first create and embed them into your soul and then you shout loudly to the world what you are about to embark on a journey of Huge Unbelievable great goals,  before you start outlining the strategy, they seem impossible at the beginning. As time goes on, they start to manifest more and more -  They do not involve you sacrificing the present moment for a possible future. However good. They can really shape your life, because they are long term and aligned to your values, you will often achieve them in unpredictable, or they will seem to fall into your life like magic. Please do not be surprised if you are told that's IMPOSSIBLE OR YOU EVEN GET A STRANGE LOOK. ( STAY FOCUSED AND KEEP LOOKING AT THE TARGETS)

Now if you do not achieve them it hurts like hell, But what it does do is make you become more motivated than ever before, they often have an edge to them, like deadlines or set of conditions .The most powerful HUGGS often involve removing elements from your life. Sometimes the biggest leverage comes not from doing things to achieve them, but from stopping doing things that are in your way. Examples of HUGGS for me is Windsor Castle event, always wanting to deliver a really special event we had to find the venue, finding St Georges House in Windsor castle gave me empowerment to create real change and what is unknown partnerships just now, bringing people from all different backgrounds together to  create a new world.

I remember 10 months prior to leading Windsor Castle event I was outside the gates with tears flowing down my face as I just stared at the castle creating the event in my head, and someone approached me asking, " Are you Alright"?My Response " Absolutely and then pointed to the castle and then asking? "can you not see I am going to deliver an event here in the future on "Personal Discovery" in this Castle" He gazed back at me laughed loudly and said  " We can all dream"  My Response was calm one " I am not Laughing" His Response was " Wow wish I could think like that" My response " You can we all have it in us all, we never go to that place because of one this " Fear of Failing" It you fail my strategy is a simple one "NEXT" "LEARN" AND MOVE ON. 

HUGGS produce ongoing effects and they express your values. You create them, they are personal, you do not copy them from other people. What are the HUGGS you have in your life right now setting for the future.

I have noticed for many years when I work with clients I always want more for them than they want for themselves, I always see the qualities in them that they do not see and believe, Next time your in front of a mirror, stand tall and say " I am ............( your name) , Now seeing yourself saying your name what have you found out about yourself, love yourself, believe in yourself and know who you are and what's important to you, starting point before you set the goals.

“all life is an experiment, the more experiments you make the better.. —Ralph Waldo -Emersdon